Discussing Ethical Non-Monogamy in the Therapeutic Space
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By: Eden Anozier, LSW
As with any relationship, navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM) requires ongoing
internal and interpersonal growth. ENM can tend to shine a bright spotlight these
opportunities for self-actualization, even when you confidently identify with ENM.
While the basis of issues often explored within ENM dynamics appear in other
relationship types and styles, like monogamy and friendship, the varied approaches and
nuances within ENM aren’t always readily understood. Despite 21.2% of the U.S.
population reporting past or current engagement in ethical non-monogamous relationships,competency for providing informed care for this community can be difficult to find. The stigma surrounding ENM only adds to the lack of resources.
As a practitioner versed in multiple approaches to ENM – and identifying with it myself -
exploring relationships that stray from the western normative is integral to my work.
What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?
Simply, ENM allows for multiple romantic relationships to form and bloom
simultaneously. It is an umbrella term that encompasses many individual identities and
practices including, but not limited to:
Hierarchical Polyamory
Solo Polyamory
Relationship Anarchy
Open Relationship
Garden Party Polyamory
Swinging
Even under these labels, there is no one “correct” way to approach ENM, and
preferences differ from person to person.
How is Ethical Non-Monogamy Approached in Therapy?
During session, we can examine the roots of your preferences that inform your unique
romantic style. How we show up with others is a mirror into both our deepest joys and
oldest hurts, and assessing your relationships makes space for both of these parts.
Whether you’ve just started exploring ENM or have decades of experience within the
relationship style, there’s always room in the therapeutic space to discuss:
Boundary setting and communication
Anxieties around stigma
Jealousy and compersion (known as jealousy’s polar opposite)
Shifting dynamics
Attachment styles
The Search for ENM-Informed Practitioners
Finding mental health practitioners that can support you in not only your mental health
challenges, but understand and help you navigate your relationship style can be difficult.
I am proud to be one of those practitioners. Learn more about me here and let’s
schedule some time to chat.
